I’m probably posting something like this for the zillionth time, only because people still don’t seem to understand my message. All my life I’ve listened to people making stupid comments about my weight and physique. But after giving birth to a baby I don’t think I should listen to such bullshit anymore. I’ve seen many women feeling low owing to the body shaming they have had to face during their struggle to shed their pregnancy weight.
In my case, I’ve been lucky to go back to my old self hardly two weeks after delivery. In fact, I never even put on much weight during my pregnancy. For the last 6 months I’ve been taking care of my baby girl happily. Yes, there are days when I wish I could sleep a little more. There are days when I feel a little tired. But I have never felt exhausted. In fact I’ve never felt more healthy and energetic ever before. And the reason for that is the smile on my little one’s face and the sound of her precious laugh.
When you come and tell me how I have dark circles around my eyes and how I have lost weight with a frown on your face, I will only take it as a compliment. I might look “bad” according to your standards. But right now I feel like the most beautiful woman in the world because how I look now is a result of everything I do for my baby. It’s not just me; Hari has lost weight too due to his constant efforts to make sure I don’t get exhausted. That’s something quite natural when you welcome a baby into your life. Something you will never be upset about.
However, my weight and body are not topics of small talk. No matter how many times I’ve tried to make this clear politely, people have been taking it as a challenge to irritate me with more stupid questions. How else do you explain questions like “How much do you weigh now? 30???” And then they laugh as if it is something really funny. People have no idea how hard I’m trying to bite my tongue and stop myself from giving a fitting reply only because I don’t wish to insult them in front of others. If I talk about how they have become fatter, wouldn’t it be looked at as body shaming and not funny? But enough is enough!
People, I might let go of it as your stupidity. But there would be many new mothers and people in general who would feel depressed owing to your habit of making inconsiderate and personal comments like these. So on behalf of all of them, I will give you a fair warning. The next time you come to me with such comments and questions, I might not be able to hold myself back. And I’m known to have an acid tongue.
P.S. I’m sure there would be many who take this blog personally and get offended, because I don’t think they would for a minute accept that they are wrong.